Can you truly trust yourself during an approach?
Imagine you are going to approach a girl in the street. You run after her… You land in front of her with your hands waving and say “STOP”. You are ready to say “Hi, I just saw you over there…” when suddenly you forget everything.
Everything… Is this the most terrifying moment or the most relieving moment of your life?
There are no stigmas about your past rejections. No agenda of what needs to happen. No “pulling her home;” no escalation steps to remember.
Just a man with his heart and his balls, and a beautiful woman. His desire is clear. His compassion is clear.
Scary or incredibly free?
If the answer is “free,” you’re going to have to get REALLY curious about what’s stopping you.
There ARE real reasons. You’ll have to take careful notes of the fear and shame that is stopping you, and be ready to tackle it head-on.
This is what we specialize in: cleaning out the deepest fear delusions and accessing authentically free behaviour.
Obviously, it is possible to do absolutely NOTHING fancy when you meet a girl. The challenge is to undo all the NEED to be fancy.
MU is an ancient Zen practice. It’s starts on the meditation cushion and it brings you all the way to the bedroom, so that you can see for yourself that the “ego-self” is not you. You know it already; that is why you are looking for real expression.
It’s a long road and a lot of work to just be yourself, but isn’t it the only work worth doing?
Most men never access their true selves, and most don’t even know that it is possible. Even our rockstars are a conceptual and cultural mess. Do we question the authenticity of a lion’s power or a lioness’ compassion for her cub? Your true self doesn’t even have a role model. It’s too spontaneous for that.
This is where many people go wrong with dating schools. The instructions go from A to B to C, without working on the engine that enables spontaneity. Or, you are reading tons and tons of books. Every new book is a sense of accomplishment. Every new course is one step closer to the “goal.” How are you going to read between the lines of your brain’s synapses and decades of ego-wiring?
You need TRAINING.